1st May 2025.

I had the misfortune to tune into a few minutes of Piers Morgan on radio 4 last week. The program was discussing the supreme court decision. I switched channels pretty quickly. Just another group of (mostly) non-trans people brandishing the word biology as the holy grail of transphobia.

I am not remotely interested in what Piers Morgan thinks a biological woman is. Queers have never needed judges, politicians or the media to tell us what gender we are.

We are and have always been at the forefront of gender discovery. Our culture is built around and continues to welcome the expression of gender difference.

We don't conform to the concepts and declarations of scientists, medics, judges, governments, religious leaders, boot boys on the street.

We bend the laws of sex and gender to shape something new. Something that reflects how we feel inside.

No one but me knows how masculine I feel. Have always felt.

But people now think they have the right to decide which single sex toilets I should use.

Really?

You, who have no clue, want to dictate which set of anxieties I should experience.

I could choose to walk into the women's toilets, see a woman see me and clock the fear, and then the anger appear on her face.

Then wait to be challenged.

Unless I announce to the world "I'm a woman."

Except I'm not a woman. Or actually, I'm sort of a woman. I'm proud to be female. I'm also male.

I'm butch.

Or I can choose to the worry of being discovered by a butch phobic male in the men's toilets. I risk physical violence there. Or sexual violence. Plus a high chance of pee on the floor.

When gender neutral toilets became a thing, it was a beautiful gift. Finally, there was somewhere I could walk into confidently. Somewhere I had a right to be.

So, let's talk about the root of this issue.

Because it's bloody well not the issue of trans women peeing in peace.

At the heart of all of this is not biology. Whatever the hell that is.

It's male violence.

There is a vile and homophobic lie that children are not safe with gay men. That is a smoke screen.

The idea that public toilets are somehow made less safe by the presence of transwomen is the same lie. The same smoke and mirrors.

Hiding in the shadows, veiled by the smoke are the actual perpetrators of sexual violence. The vast majority of which are heterosexual, cis, male.

Fund that, JK. You who made your fortune from children's literature. Some of those children, those Harry Potter reading children, are facing hell in schools right now, thanks to your comments and deep pockets.

Here's a radical idea: instead of throwing hatred at trans people, instead of making oppressed people's lives harder,

Why don't we put that energy into making toilets, and hospital wards, and hostels, and hospices safe for everyone?

Put that money and campaigning and education and public funding into eliminating violence against women. Against black people. Against disabled people. Against queer people. Against trans people.

Why don't we talk about who is committing these crimes? And how comfortable they are sitting since the Supreme Court decision.

I don't hear you talking about that, Piers Morgan, Keir Starmer,  JK Rowling, Kishwer Falkner.